Newsflash people! It's not the rolled eyes of a passerby as you cruise down the street in your 2010 BMW, nor the faint whispers of "bitch" from your co-workers as you bustle to your desk with your new Louis Vuitton "Damier" shoulder bag in tote. No no no... they're not the ones you should worry about. It's those toxic bastards who we let infiltrate our worlds. Thats right folks!!! They normally rear their heads in the form of friends, family and even lovers.
Hateration often festers and thrives amongst those who are too afraid to make moves for themselves in life, so they are insanely jealous and envious of those who strive for more... and need we say have more/outperform the "hater." Like crabs in a barrel they'll attempt to hold you back with negativity. Misery loves company! These HATERS love to relish in your downfalls. When you are doing well, they are secretly waiting for you to fall.
The most important thing is to quarantine these diseased people. First! You mustn't be naive. Recognize those who aren't genuine. I'll will give you one my favorite quotes by Maya Angelou, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them!" No matter how fake or phony, a person will always show their true colors. It's up to you to believe them and haul ass, or stick around and get kicked in the ass. The choice is yours! Second and most importantly... either rid yourself of the toxicity or deal with them with a long handled spoon.
We are all guilty of jealousy and envy. I certainly am! I will tell someone to their face that I am jealous/envious, but that doesn't mean that I hate them for having something I would like. Saying, "I wish it were me," isn't hating. However, trying to knock the person down because they have what you desire is the true sign of a Hater. They'll also be the first to exclaim, "I'm not jealous! What do I have to be jealous of?"
I "hate" on celebrities etc., because they have what is far from easily attainable to the average Joe. Hell, my eyes have watered up watching MTV Cribs. Hell yes I want a Lamborghini Murcielago and I will call the filthy rich person I see with one, a lousy fucking bastard! While I am not condoning my thoughts/behaviors, there is a huge difference when you hate on average people who don't have anything you aren't able to achieve yourself. It's even worse to consider yourself close to someone all the while harvesting ill feelings towards them.
We need to start becoming more conscious of our thoughts when they're toggling on the line of hateration. Rather than hating, use that energy as a source of inspiration and motivation to propel yourself to new heights, rather than marinating in stew of hate and misery. You can't achieve when you are too invested in what someone else is doing or what they have. Work on being the best that you can be and the rest will fall in place. If not... you'll only find yourself in the same stagnate pool of shit you've been standing in while the person you're hating on is moving on.
As for the victims of hateration, use your haters as fuel to go further and smell better. After all, they're your biggest fans... so make like Bonnie Raitt and "give 'em something to talk about."
In the words of Barbra Streisand, "Don't tell me not to live, just sit and putter. Lifes candy and the sun's a bowl of butter. Don't bring around a cloud to rain on my parade."
Need some help on who to look out for? Head Blogger, Tiffany LeFever of ElleElleEye warns us of 8 People to Avoid! Click and check 'em out.
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